From ACS – December 4, 2012
Losing a loved one to suicide is a painful and difficult experience. The death of a loved one is always traumatic, but during the holidays, the feelings of loss can be even more pronounced. Each person has to grieve in his or her own way, but there are some general tips that can help you get through this especially difficult time.
- Decide if you want to keep certain holiday traditions or create new ones. Plan in advance how you want to spend your time and with whom. Do something to honor the memory of your loved one.
- Allow yourself to feel pain and whatever other emotions come along, too. Don’t let anyone else tell you how you “should” feel. Then express your feelings and let yourself cry.
- Take care of yourself. Eat well and exercise. Allow yourself small physical pleasures like hot baths, naps, and favorite foods. But avoid drinking too much alcohol or using other drugs.
- Forgive yourself for all the things you did or didn’t say or do.
- Give yourself a break from mourning with distractions like movies, dinner out, reading a book, listening to music, or getting a massage or a manicure. You must work through grief, but you don’t need to focus on it all the time.
- Consider getting some support. Talk about your loss and your memories of the life and death of your loved one. Do not think you are protecting your family and friends by not expressing your sadness. Ask others for what you need. Find and talk to others who have lost a loved one.